Posted by Sunny Nwafor
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GOD’S JUSTIFICATION FOR MARRIAGE WITHOUT ADULTERY.
Genesis 2:18,24; Matthew 19:4-6; Malachi 2:14-1 6; 1 Corinthians 7:2,9,39; Romans 7:2,3
God made marriage honourable from the time of creation. Though man, before the fall, was righteous, holy and perfect, “the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”. He saw man in his native purity as incomplete without an ‘help meet’. This first man was rich as everything created was his; plus a great and beautiful accommodation, the garden comparable to none. Yet, God declared it is not good for this rich, prosperous and contented man to be alone. He was happy, too. Interestingly, he did not even see that he had a need for a wife as some people erroneously query the need for a wife/husband. God is wiser than man and sees the need for us to get married. “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”. He made marriage honourable, not only for Adam, but for all his offspring, as Adam did not have father and mother.
Christ upheld the sacredness of the marriage institution by affirming the divine precept of monogamy; He said:
“he which made them at the beginning made them male and female”. A godly man, according to God’s provision, is expected to “cleave” to his wife psychologically, spiritually, physically, naturally, not allowing separation in mind and affection. Through cleaving they have the same mind, plan and direction as “one flesh”. The believer must not allow divorce or remarriage because “what therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder”. Marriage is a permanent institution and nobody should be as careless as to make it temporary. God frowns at such carelessness and infidelity in marriage: “...the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously....” He designed marriage to be godly and produce godly children, not wayward children who, like birds, fly in different directions after birth because of a broken home. Broken relationships have great negative effects on children who are either cared for by single parents or left to fend for themselves. Whatever the reasons (convenience, compatibility and independence) anyone has to support separation or divorce, God says, “he hateth putting away....” Once married, the believer must remain married till death separates.
God created marriage for partnership, a cure for loneliness which He revealed is not good for man/woman. It is within the context of marriage that man’s deepest and compelling urge can be satisfied with his or her spouse. This way, marriage offers protection and purity. “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband”. To enjoy the partnership, protection and purity in marriage, the believer must avoid marrying an unbeliever as that amounts to unequal yoke. Note that the choice and consequence of choice of marriage partner remains the believer’s. Any believer who breaks away from a living partner that he or she got properly married to and remarries is guilty of adultery; it is only the death of a spouse that frees the living partner to marry in the Lord.