To me it is not wrong to fall in love with adivorced person because Love is not conditional and it is not tied to situations around us. Divorce can happen to any body, but the most important thing is understanding the person you have fallen in love with and forget about his or her past. The rest God will handle. God bless
I hope this article may help!
By: Dann Douglass
PANIC - God Hates Divorce!
Panic because Your marriage has already ended in divorce. Panic because, "It's too late". And you know that God said in Malachi 2:16, that God hates divorce! Your probably feeling a bit guilty like every normal person does after a divorce, and now you feel that "God is really mad at you, or God hates you!"
Are you thinking you could have done things a little different?, you know what? You probably could have! But, lets both quit beating up on you for a minute because there are some things I think you should know. (wait to panic)
A short story
First I'd like to tell you about a person I know that did everything he could to save his marriage and did everything right according to Gods word and the marriage still went down in flames. I believe after reading this, you might get a better perspective on how God looks at divorce.
About 8 to 10 years ago this person was having an argument with his wife. It was about 2 hours before he had to go to work and she stated that it was her birthday and she was going out to a bar. He asked, who was going to watch their 3 children? She stated: "My mother"
He said: "The same mother who watched your sisters kids and was visiting bad areas of town at 3 and 4:00 AM and left them un attended in her car? I DON'T THINK SO!
He was sitting in his favorite chair and she was standing at the front door holding it cracked open, yelling very loud so the neighbors could hear! He got up and walked calmly to the door, slammed it very hard, then returned to his chair and said: "Now, just talk to "me", okay?"
That was the most violent thing that happened that day. However, when he returned home from work that evening, he found that his wife had left and taken their 3 children.
What followed soon afterward was shocking. For two weeks or so, this person didn't know where his children were. Finally a phone call. It was his wife. The conversation was pleasant and he asked if she needed money or their only car and said: "If you need time to think about things go ahead etc.."
She said she didn't need anything and that she had to do something quickly that her attorney had told her to do. Apparently she was advised to check into an abuse shelter by the attorney.
Very soon afterwards, he was served with divorce papers and allegations of spousal abuse and child abuse and still didn't know where his children were. It was at this point, this person I know, fell on the floor in his living room, intensely begging God to heal his marriage and protect him from these allegations against him.
This man called everyone he knew and asked them to pray that God would heal his marriage and about the abuse allegations. He told everyone that if they had any doubts about "him" to at least pray that Gods will would be done.
In his mind, he knew he was innocent and that it "was" Gods will that the marriage be restored! So he knew he was praying according to Gods will.
Malachi 2:16 - "For I hate divorce," says the LORD, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with wrong," says the LORD of hosts. "So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously."
Matthew 19:9 - "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."
Things went from bad to worse to everyone's surprise. This woman went to this mans neighbors, the elders of his church, his friends, relatives and anyone who would lend an ear to her and maliciously slammed this mans character. She even went to the humane society and told them that he abused animals.
It was later that she told him that she had been diagnosed with "serious mental issues". There were things this man could have done, right from the beginning to seek revenge and make her life miserable, but he chose not to go there.
God sent two attorneys to him, who offered to represent him free of charge. The first, a friend of his did not specialize in divorce and worked diligently to reconcile the marriage.
Well, they went to court and the judge immediately awarded her full custody of the three children and a sizable amount of child support, but, by law, had to grant him visitation.
The second, who did specialize in divorce, literally begged him to let him take the case and he did. They went back to court and The judge belittled him, made fun of his age and his occupation and was very distinctly rude.
However, the judge was forced (by law) to lower the child support to a very minimal amount. And was visibly not happy about it. This man was also awarded "joint custody" of the three children.
To make a long story short, every time this woman tried to dig a pit for him, she would fall into it herself. Eventually, he was awarded full custody of the children. It was later discovered that the children (especially one) were being abused, but it was happening in her care, at her house, not his.
A divorce did take place. He did everything possible to prevent it, and Did everything according to Gods will. Even though being lonely and approached by women, he had nothing to do with them even after the divorce was final.
God does answer prayer, but sometimes the answer is "No". Everyone was confused because they were sure they were praying according to God's will, yet things kept getting worse.
I truly believe with all my heart, that God wanted this marriage to end. If I didn't believe it then, There is no doubt that I believe it now!
Does this shock you? I'm sure it does, but I would like to point something out to you, that you may not know.
God himself is a divorcee. You heard me correctly. Even God reached a point when he had to say: "enough is enough".
Jeremiah 3:8 "And I saw that for all the adulteries of faithless Israel, I had sent her away and given her a writ of divorce, yet her treacherous sister Judah did not fear; but she went and was a harlot also.
Once this mans marriage ended, God started blessing him beyond measure. He was awarded custody of his children by a judge who started off hating him, (based on all the accusations filed against him) and Free attorneys? (now that's a miracle)
One day a woman attended his church that was so beautiful, she turned even the most disciplined members of the congregations heads. She was not only extremely beautiful, but very pleasant to talk to and well mannered.
Some of the single gentlemen didn't waste much time in asking her out, which she politely declined without hurting their feelings or pride. She had a daughter that attended some of the same functions as his three children did.
They became friends and would seem to single each other out for conversation on Wednesday evenings while waiting for their children's church functions to end.
His sister said to him: "She likes you" and he replied: "She's just really nice and she's nice to everyone". Using common sense, he knew this girl could have anyone she chose, and he didn't consider himself a great catch, having three children and not such a great job at the time.
I could go on and make this a novel if I told you how much god has blessed this man, but to condense this a bit, to the distain of their church, that insisted on taking a marriage course that lasted weeks before getting married, they had one date and then got married.
That was several years ago, and to this day, I never see them without holding each others hand. It was truly a marriage arranged by God. She appears to be (and according to him) everything the bible describes as "an excellent wife"
They are so obviously right for each other, they could pass for brother and sister if it were not so obvious that they are so in love. By the way, she was divorced also! (but that is another story for another time)
What's the point! How does this apply to me?
The point is, "God Hates Divorce". So ask your self, did God hate "that" divorce? Hmmm it seems there are exceptions. Who do you most resemble in the story above? (Gender doesn't matter) Why did God bless this man even though he got divorced? And her for that matter.
The answer is in the advice I am about to give you. So you are divorced! (not separated) This time, let God choose your spouse for you, as you should have done the first time, but hardly anyone does.
Sure, you're lonely and maybe depressed. You might even be missing sex so bad you can't stand it! However, now is the time to put God before your urges, feelings, wants and desires. (In truth, you are currently facing a wonderful opportunity) Take it!
If you can abstain from having sex or whatever it is that is most important to you, and put God first, this will make you a pearl of great price in Gods eyes. God will notice and reward you!
It may even take some time, but will be well worth it. If you put God first, he will send you the perfect spouse. A match made by him, made in heaven, unbreakable by Satan or the world.
Whatever it is that you would put ahead of, or as more important than God, (and we all have something) put it behind you and put God first! I promise you, God will bless you beyond measure.
Whatever it is, put it second to God. Find out what pleases God and what God would want you to do, then Do it!
That's what the man in the story did and it worked for him. I guarantee it will work for you. It may not be what you wanted to hear, but it is good advise. try it.
Under no circumstances will God bless you for taking revenge on your "X" spouse. If you've done wrong, try to make it right! Get over it and get on with your life!
If your "X"- spouse needs to be punished, let God do it! By the way, God will not be requiring your help! As much as is possible, get out with a clean conscience. Just ask God and he is faithful to forgive you and wipe the slate clean.
If you are not divorced yet, don't even think about it!! Your course is to pray and trust God, and he can make your marriage (yes your marriage) heaven on earth.
God is not your 2nd grade teacher. He knows your heart and he knows your mind. Put divorce or whatever "you" want behind you and do what God wants, then, if you end up divorced, you will walk out of it "blessed!" (No Panic)
You can't fool God, don't try!
God Bless You
danny rossa said:
Is that wrong if we fall in love and have a serious relationship with divorced person? some tells that it wrong thing, some tells why not if they are a good person and a christian ...
Hi danny rossa. I hope this scripture helps you.
"Everyone who divorces his wife, and marries another, commits adultery. He who marries one who is divorced from a husband commits adultery."