August 27, 2011 7:16:52 AM CDT
Well my sister, April, i believe u and can empathize with u on this. But dont forget something, many people would want to advice u but u see the perculiar nature of different marriages and individual make ups and complications, incapacitate a straightforward advice. However, Jesus rightly told the Pharisees who wanted to know about the fate of the woman who had married 7 husbands and lost them all. who will be her true husband at resurrection? Jesus told them there is no such thing. At resurrection there is no marriage! Now, we make issues out of things at times. that's why Paul said for those who chosed to remain single it was better for them, becos they will avoid all this earthly troubles that bring divisions and affect their relationship with God. However, if anyone wishes to marry, or stay married it is good. But u cant force someone to stay married to u if he is not willing to, it should be a mutual decision and not a onesided thing. Marriage is like a coin, u need both sides sticking together for it to work. With that kind of unity, the coin can keep rolling and falling and willing to roll through all its challenges in life. Maybe u should just let him do his heart desire...sometimes, letting go can be difficult but the best decision in our interest at times is letting go. U have to look at the rate to which this issue is affecting ur faith in God, is this making u more like Jesus in character daily? Why i may not be able to answer questions, why God is allowing this now, or not turning ur husband into an angel over night to do His will. I know that God loves ur husband and would like to see ur marriage work. Those who have issues with their marriages, can tell u that trying or worrying about putting together a broken glass will only hurt ur fingers the more if u are not extremely careful how u go about it. When my parents relationship became sour, I prayed and trusted God for over 20 years to bring them back together. They were not officially divorced but were living apart and my dad even took a second wife (the initiate reason that made my mum leave the house in protest). My mum is now late. Before she died, my Dad confessed that he was childish and wish he could take her back. My mum gave her life to Jesus as a result of the marital problems that drove her into the arms of Jesus Christ. the pangs of what that left on we the children no eye have seen nor has it entered the heart of man what emotional, psychological, mental and spiritual implications that brings into the life of a growing child. But i can tell u today that God is faithful even when He does not answer prayers the way we want Him to or our direct expectations are not met our way. Of course His ways are not ours! Proverbs 3. 5 - 6 is just the answer to go about this matters.