Ben Irwin said:
Well said, maria. We all make mistakes, but we shouldnt let people come right back and do the same thing again. Can really bad people change? Yes. Can it happen in an instant? Yes. Does it usually happen in an instant? No. Not sure if forgetting means not bringing it up anymore. I know I have forgiven my friends for things they have done. I don't bring the problems up, because theres no reason too, but that doesnt mean I let my guard down. [Like if you have a friend who lies, you can forgive them and not mention it, but you arent going to trust them with your life savings any time soon.] Thank you for bringing some verses into the debate. Colossians 3:13 is a great command to forgive. You do have a great point about "Love keeps no records of wrong." I'll have to ponder that verse more...
Hello Ben! You're right about--we shouldnt let people come right back and do the same thing again. Let me share you my experience. There is this person who has hurt me to the point that it took me 1year before I could really stop crying about what he did to me. But I always prayed to God, every time, to help me forgive him because that is what He wants His Christian followers to do. God did not fail me. Indeed, "Everything on earth has its own time and its own season."-Ecclesiastes 3:1 ...same may go for forgiveness and forgetting. Right now, though I can still remember what he did, I refocus my mind on other stuffs and thank God I have stopped crying about it. Althougth there are times I think what would I do if I see him face to face, but I guess that most important thing is to not let my guard down just like what you said. I can't allow him to hurt me again...but I could do my best to live in harmony with that person.
And about forgetting, not bringing up the mistake is one way to "forget" it. But some people like my bestfriend, could really totally forget it. I admire her and I think that it is a God-given gift. For some people who could hardly forget, not bringing up the topic can be a good, say, strategy to forget it. =)
maria mabras said:
Forgiving rather gives us the chance to share to others the forgiveness we received from God--and this pleases God. Though, honestly, it's really hard because we are imperfect but everything is possible through Christ Jesus. =)
Amen Maria. this is the very reason why we forgive others because of the forgiveness we have RECEIVED! and not because we are obligated to forgive.
Michael Owens said:
Christians have to forgive in order for God to forgive us. Al-tho we may never forget what someone has done to us thats human nature. Satan will remind us every day what someone has done to us so we fall out of fellowship with God. Satan reminds me of my past ever day. I let him know my past is under the blood of Jesus Christ.